It's been a little bit.

I really haven't had a lot of contact with my son lately. I'll get a text or a message on Facebook but I seldom speak to him on the phone. If I am not in the mood to talk to him I just don't answer the phone. It has been almost two full months since I saw him last. As far as I know he is still living out of state.

The last crisis he had was typical for him. He lost his job, was living with some guy, and had taken a job doing some painting for a woman. The crisis occurred when the friend supposedly was asking him to move out and the lady wasn't paying him for his work. He said he had nothing to eat and soon no place to live.....etc. I told him that coming back to our home wasn't an option. I told him that he is very resourceful and that he knows people all over the country and suggested that he start talking to some of them that do have jobs and might have a lead for him. I offered to contact my uncle who is in construction (who is in recovery after many, many mishaps and lost relationships) if he had any work for him. I did contact my uncle who did not hesitate to offer him work and place to stay even after hearing about his drug addiction.

I guess kiddo got to thinking about working out in the sun for long hours every single day and got busy finding another job. He is now supposedly working in a bar as a server. Not an ideal location for an addict to be working, or maybe it is the perfect place for an addict to be working. I guess it depends on whose view point you are looking at it from. The job with my uncle would have gotten him closer to his child and he would have had a place to stay and food to eat. To me this is a sign that he isn't ready yet to work on another way of life.

In the past week he has started talk about coming to visit his son. I know without a doubt that during  his sober moments that he misses him terribly. I told him that he would have to finance the trip this time. I paid for the bus ticket the last time he came for more than a few hours and that didn't work out very well for any of us. If he does manage to get to town I think I will take my friend Ron's advice and put him in a hotel and allow him only to visit a prescribed amount of time each day he is in town. My opinion is that will be money well spent and the best thing for my mental health. I can't rest when he is in my house. I know I don't have to explain that to any of you who have lived with an addict in your home.

Anyway, this is what is going on with him as far as I know. He says he isn't using, but I suspect that he is.

On a more happy note, I was able to have my grandson at my house all weekend!! I took him to daycare this morning. I will miss him until I see him again but on the other hand, Granny could use some rest!

Hope you all have a good week. I have you all in my thoughts and prayers.